A Picture Book Recommendation for Kids with Grieving Adults

GRANDPA’S TOP THREES, Wendy Meddour

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Yes, that’s what I said, kids with grieving adults. Henry has lost his granny and Grandpa has come to stay. Grandpa keeps gardening and despite Henry’s attempts to break through, Grandpa stays silent. Henry, like many kids, doesn’t get it - what’s up with Grandpa and the not talking? But Henry persists and by playing one of my family’s favorite games, “Name Your Top Threes,” Henry slowly gets Grandpa to engage again. Henry doesn’t seem adversely affected by his Grandmother’s death but he and Grandpa have a lovely exchange about “top three Grannies” and Henry and Grandpa finally tell us that they miss her. While I think books about grieving children are super valuable, I also appreciate books that explain the funny behaviors adult show when they’re going though something hard. Death is confusing, but trusted adults acting unexpectedly is perhaps even more so.

Why for kids: Colorful illustrations, the fun of “top threes,” and adventures with a grandparent.

Why for grownups: A great conversation opener if you need to talk about grieving, a matter-of-fact exploration of loss, a heartwarming ending that just might bring a tear to your eye.

( I didn’t read it this week so I’m cheating a little but if this is a topic you want your child to read more of, I also recommend THE ROUGH PATCH, by Brian Lies. Gorgeous story, gorgeous illustrations.)